spread them wide
Anonymous asked: You're just a sexist asshole who likes to abuse and control women.
Firstly, thank you very, very much for using proper grammar. It’s - quite literally - the only reason I’m responding to this ask.
Because actually, I’m not. Speaking as a dom, I only “abuse” women who desire to be “abused”, and not a step further. If I go any step further than my sub wants to go, I feel horrendous, and make every possible move I can to ensure it never happens again.
Because of this dynamic, you’ll quickly find that I, as a dom, do not “control” my sub. My sub is very clearly controlling me, and - through her good graces - is granting me the illusion of control.
The sub has all the power. However much of that power she gives to me is up to her. I don’t control or abuse anyone. I’m merely fulfilling the desires of a woman strong enough to ask.
Hey, Anon! BDSM does not equal abuse. Speaking as a submissive woman, I am not a victim simply because I am submissive. I don’t need your judgement of the men in my community when you know nothing about them.
Just because misogynists pose as Dominants doesn’t mean Dominants are misogynist. There is a clear fucking difference between the two.
BDSM empowers me and I am anything but controlled and used, believe me. I get to express the best of my sexuality in a way that makes my partner feel good, too. Both parties express constant mutual respect and consent in a real BDSM relationship. Please educate yourself on our sub-culture before you call out people who don’t deserve it.